Your spur wears the fastest???
You must fit the gears too tight!! In my opinion gears in M18 are just perfect!
Perhaps you should ask this question on the M18 forum rather than on general...
I had driven a 300 motor for some time, then I switched to brushless Mamba 5400, I drive the model a lot and see NO WEAR OF SPUR GEAR AT ALL. Even the pinions are very durable given they`re plastic... With high reving brushless motor I have recently started to use 15 T titanium pinion from Micro RS 4 - now the drivetrain is just perfect.
Some M18 owners use Mamba 8000 kV brushless motor (a model equipped with this motor and a 4 cell li-po battery can reach some 100 mph) and I haven`t heard them complaining about the gears - some of them did not even switch factory bevel diffs to ball diffs!!!
In my opinion there`s no need to produce any metal gears (they would only increase the total weight of the model, and the rotating mass in particular), except for the pins.